“The best way to destroy an enemy is to make him a friend.”
~ Abraham Lincoln
The finally Stage of Competency, Unconscious Competence, arrives when our habit of being complaint-free is fully integrated. We no longer have to think about switching words or converting thoughts as our view of and reaction to the world has softened to one of kindness and understanding. Paraphrasing Ghandi, “We have become the change we wish to see.” Yeah!!
As we look around our world and the experiences we have, challenges and struggles are now seen as opportunities for improvement and personal development. We notice the tiny gifts laid in between our perceptual differences of how we would prefer things to be and and how they actually are. Having a greater sense of ease both with ourselves and in relationship, we approach delicate situations with openness and calm. With the unbiased eye of a Witness, there is greater acceptance of what is.
Personally, we feel more empowered in our life as WE, not circumstance, are taking charge. Kindness, compassion, and understanding are reflected in the choices we make because that’s “just how we are” now. Life is good because we “choose to have it be that way”. Our modus operandi has changed. Instead of being subject to whatever implodes or explodes around us, WE now decide what is allowed in our energy sphere. If negativity is too high, we either change the situation or remove ourselves.
It’s kind of like when you decide to quit smoking, not because your head tells you it’s the right thing to do but because your heart knows it’s the right to do. You’d never think of going back to smoking. Even though you can’t believe that you smoked before (OMG!), wit compassion you understand that you did and are happy that you no longer do. When folks show up in your life that are smoking, you immediately make a choice not to stand around them or will do whatever is necessary to help them quit if they want. Either way, smoking is no longer part of your life.
With the choice to be more positive, life tends to show up and encourage that perspective. Happy things "fall into place" and people that support this way of being appear. As you become more mentally attractive, positive people enjoy your company more. It's no doubt that like attracts like. With an attitude of gratitude and appreciation, grateful and appreciative folks now become your Circle of Peeps. As we synchronistically entrain one another in behavior and style, an cycle of higher vibration is created. Our environment becomes richer with goodness, compassion, kindness, and peace.
This isn’t to mean that every moment of our lives feels fairy high but it does mean that the foundation of how we look, feel, touch, smell, and engage with the world is very different. Our approach and perception has changed. We know that while we can’t change another, we do have influence. How we treat ourselves, each other, and the world has impact. Each one of us has choice. Fantastic!! What are you going to do with yours???
With gratitude for our continued journey of personal enlightenment and peaceful living,
Mindfulness and Stress Management Coach
8 limbs Holistic Health, LLC
Energies of Peace